Uncommon Path Network

Dear Path Finder,
 
I pray you find your purposeful path, walk audaciously in it, and inspire others to find theirs too.

My siblings and friends are convinced there’s something “not quite right” with me. Honestly? I’m starting to think they might be onto something. How else do I explain these endless breaks from social media? Ten million times might be an exaggeration… but only slightly.

I understand their frustration. By disappearing from digital spaces, I close off the very platforms that make it easy to stay connected. These days, people don’t need to call you to know how you’re doing, they just watch your status updates. A smiling photo equals “you’re fine” (even if that’s not always the truth).

So when I sensed the Lord calling me yet again into the secret place, my heart sank. I grumbled, not just silently, but with my words. And that grumbling… I know God hates it. I’m not proud of myself.

With tears rolling down my chest, I cried, “Why me? Why again? Until when? Should I even come back to social media? Am I hearing You wrong? Am I running away from life? WHAT.IS.GOING.ON?”

His response was calm but firm:

“You left too quickly. I was not done with you.”

Everything in me went still. The questions stopped. My heart knew He was right.

I thought we’d wrapped up this season. I felt ready to return. But God gently exposed the truth:

“You thought. You felt. You did not ask Me. If you had, you would know I am still working on you. That is why you will keep coming back — until I am finished.”

And He’s right. He always is.

I didn’t defend myself. I just repented, deeply, sincerely. My desire has always been to do His will, but sometimes I get too familiar, assuming I can move when I feel ready instead of when He says so.

Looking back, I see the pattern. In past consecrations, I’ve often ended the season too soon. Usually, the “exit” temptation comes when the refining heat turns up and the deaths God calls me to surrender feel too costly. I convince myself that what I’ve learned is enough to carry me forward.

And so here I am again, wrestling. This time feels different though, because I’m beginning to see what life without social media has given me:

• A fuller life — I truly enjoy who I am and the woman God is shaping me to be.
• Presence — I engage fully in whatever I’m doing.
• Purity of motive — no constant self-check for validation or performance.
• Quality — rich conversations with friends and family, dinners with my community, unhurried Bible study, long prayers without the need to “move on,” thoughtful client presentations, skill-building, dreaming boldly in the corporate arena, and visualising projects with real impact.

It’s strange though… why does this clarity shift when I’m on social media? I don’t know yet. I’m still searching that out.

But I do know this: God makes a man.
He doesn’t need my online presence, a flawless marketing plan, or any of the tools we think are necessary to prosper us. He can cause businesses to thrive, churches to grow, and lives to be touched without a single post going live.

So yes — my friends may feel the distance, but those meant to walk with me will have the capacity to stay, even in these quiet seasons.

I’ve been tempted (again) to set an “end date” for this consecration. I never learn. And yet, I’m realising, the very reason I’m here now will be the reason I’ll have to return if I leave too soon. This time, I’m letting Him decide when I’m ready.

Maybe we’re locked in for the rest of the year. If that changes, I’ll let you know.

If there’s one thing I hope you take from my wrestle, it’s this: God makes a man. And when He does, He doesn’t need all the things we think He does.

Welcome to my new season. Thank you for staying.

Shalom,
Oyena